Written by Tracey Lemming
Moths are drawn to the light, and so are we. Many want to be in the spotlight, brighter than the sun. Our society values likes, selfies and memes over Ideas, Authenticity, and Emotions. Comparison is a trap, and if we are not careful, we will fall in it. Keeping up with the Kardashians, filtered photos, and unreal expectations are the name of the game.
But, what if you let go of all the expectations? Yours, others, and society’s. The striving for perfection, always buying the next best thing, and feeling validated with the number of friends on your social account. How would it feel to accept where you are in this moment exactly as is? Take a moment to release the energy of always being “on” and tune into your inner wisdom. Who do you want to be at this moment? How will you align with your authentic self? Your life is a canvas, and you get to paint your own masterpiece.
I found out how little I really needed when I spent 4 months in Indiana when only expecting to stay a week. Somehow I made it from snow in March to a hot and humid July with a small suitcase. How did I manage to make my wardrobe last through the seasons? Friends and family. When it grew warmer, friends cleaned out their closets and gave me their extra clothes. I only bought 1 pair of sandals in the 4 months, and that wasn’t even necessary as my friend had let me borrow hers. I have some really great friends and family, and I bet you do too.
Have you heard of the 80/20 rule? We use 20% of the items in our life 80% of the time. And we use the other 80% of our items, only 20% of the time. This applies to all aspects of our lives. Do we really need 80% of our items, or have we fallen in the trap of measuring our worthiness by the number of possessions that we have? When I got back to North Carolina, I was overwhelmed by the number of items surrounding me, and how little I missed or needed them. Some have meaning and usefulness, but most of them are just unnecessary stuff. As I am preparing for new flooring, it has been a good time for me to look at what I love and use, and see what I can let go of for others to enjoy. I have found that the less that I have wanting my energy, the more freedom and clarity that I feel. What are some things that you could let go of that are weighing you down?
The 80/20 rule also applies to our time. If you think about it, a lot of us are spending 80% of our time doing the same thing, while there is a vast array of other things we could be focusing on and using our energy towards. For me, social media can be a good distraction from all the other things in my life that could be more meaningful. However, I am aware that about 80% of the items on my newsfeed are negative and draining my energy. I could let go of this habit and use that time connecting with others, spending more time in nature, and practicing healthier habits. If we could let go of what weighs us down, and focus on those things that bring us joy and happiness, I believe that we may find more peace. When our focus is on the negativity that surrounds us, we see more bad stories and separation. But if we switch our focus to unity and love, we find people and stories that uplift us.
As we continue on this roller coaster ride that 2020 has become, I invite you to let go of the distractions, the unnecessary, and the negative focus. Instead, take inventory of those habits, activities, and loved ones who empower and elevate you. Focus your time and energy on what brings you joy. Turn off the news, step outside, and call a loved one. Shifting our focus to what matters most can allow us to live a life brighter than the sun. We get this choice every day. Why not begin now?