In the end, it doesn’t even matter. All the fear, the arguments, the being right. Dr. Wayne Dyer always said, I’d rather be happy than right. I would agree with him. When you have left this earth, what matters is how you lived your life and the connections that you made. People will remember how you made them feel and the words that you said. Are you choosing to lead with ego and fear, or authenticity and love?
I’m sure we have all witnessed relationship stress. Not only does it affect those directly involved, but it also affects their loved ones. Many times, it’s miscommunication and the need to defend our views and to be right. To me, it’s a waste of time and energy to worry about others’ opinions and what they are thinking. I’m not saying that I don’t worry about these at times, but I do have the awareness to know that it’s not in my best interest when I do. We can’t control others thoughts and feelings, but we can control OUR own reactions. It is good to see different perspectives, but when you connect with your intuition, you are the only one who can decide the best path for yourself.
I’ve been in a unique position of losing 3 of my loved ones in a short period of time, with little or no warning. As the pandemic hit, I witnessed uncertainty, fear and unknown. And through it all, I knew that it could be so much worse. I know this pandemic has hit many people very hard, but in comparison to losing my family members, it’s just different. What matters is those friends and family who have supported and reached out to me. What matters is how I feel in the current moment, and giving myself the grace to treat myself as my best friend treats me.
So, I invite you to take a look at where your mental energy is going. Are you reliving negative conversations in your mind, or expecting the worse? Are you thinking about your next step to prove that you are right? Or, are you treating yourself and others kindly and understanding that we are all growing and learning in this new landscape? That we all are doing the best that we can with the life experiences that we have been given?
Thank you for reading, and I’d love to hear your thoughts.